When FEAR becomes your closest Enemy
About Social Anxieties in Adolescents
Are you most of the time afraid of making a fool of yourself and think that everybody is judging you when you are in public?
You might struggle even to open the door for the postman, taking the school bus or having a snack in the school cafeteria.
Thinking about holding a speech in front of the task makes you feel dizzy and troubles your stomach?
Are you avoiding talking to strangers, going to parties or meeting new people?
Your mind is always full of negative thoughts, worries and hopelessness?
Even if you try hard your body is alarming you that something is not okay and make you avoid those situations to feel safe again.
You might have created your cave, where nobody and nothing can threaten you. You prefer to be alone, rather than being in public, in the centre of attention.
As a result of constant worrying and withdrawal, you experience more and more negative thoughts about yourself, the past and the future.
You are not alone with your FEARS!
According to research in UK 1 in 10 young people experience a mental health disorder and ANXIETY and DEPRESSION are the most common mental health difficulties and have high co-morbidity (Green et al. 2005).
School learning, stress tolerance, confidence, motivation, personal relationships will be adversely affected (Layard 2008).
What about your strengths and goals?
There might be another voice in yourself, which is questioning the way to deal with your fear. You want to overcome your struggle to enjoy whatever you do and fulfil your goals, without caring about the opinion of others.
Many youngsters are not aware of their strengths and abilities though. This can have many reasons but what matters is the motivation to change and having family members to support you.
FACE YOUR FEARS!
You can learn step by step to overcome any fear if you want to!
First of all, find somebody you trust to talk about it. It could be your parents, a close friend, your doctor or a therapist.
There are so many strategies to help you with, and yo don´t need to go through it by yourself.
I have witnessed youngsters overcoming their fears, who were able to do things they couldn`t even think off.
It might not always be easy. You will sweat, struggle and question while leaving your safe place and facing your fears.
But it will be a journey worth taking.
Published on 2018/12/19